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Just saying No thanks   10/8/2008

I have been invited to have an unmeaningful relationship with a beautiful lady once a week. I actually was wanting a little more than unmeaningful so I had to tell her no thanks. She has hassled me about it and I finally had to ignore her.


3 Comments, 130 Views, 4 Votes ,2.86 Score
Choclitinnocence 48 F
3  Articles
If Someone says "Thank you but I am not interested"..   9/26/2008

Or one of those others pleasant let you down easy one liners, why do you feel the need to counter the statement with "Why?" or some other pestering comment or rude comment?

Would these replies honestly make the person reconsider the rejecting reply that they initially sent?

If you got one of those responses, would you take the reply as a hit and then move on or if you like what ...


18 Comments, 256 Views, 17 Votes ,3.83 Score
YOU SUSPECT A STD   8/31/2008

You meet someone online. You meet in person and like one another. You decide to have sex. You're both naked. Then you see it. A bump, blister, redness, or something else that you think could be a std. But you may be wrong. It might be nothing. The other person might not be aware of it. How do you stop without hurting the other persons feelings?What is the polite way to handle this situation?


2 Comments, 155 Views, 8 Votes ,3.71 Score
how do i tell someone no thanks   8/18/2008

well it starts with a guy that has been trying to get with me forever and im just not intersted in him im try to hint it but how do i tell him no thanks without being mean


5 Comments, 88 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
hot4uinga 41 F
5  Articles
repeats   8/6/2008

how can you nicely say I DONT WANT YOU, after you ignore and tewll them they are not your type


7 Comments, 130 Views, 9 Votes ,5.56 Score
Azaruna 46 C
2  Articles
Not an easy thing   7/29/2008

Guess it depends on how warm/cold a person you are to how difficult you find this.

We are very tactful and warm people so find it quite difficult. We can make our minds up pretty quick to whether or not we are interested. Will tell you now we definately aint interested in people without pix on their profile as it shows ...


1 Comments, 44 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
mixedaddy 46 M
2  Articles
kissing on first date   7/25/2008

MOst women will give a kiss the first date.Some even hand the kat over.My thing is with all the variables, do ladies chosse right off the bat who can hit it?Or the guy has to change her mind overtime?


3 Comments, 73 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
a_latham 42 M
2  Articles
Is it wrong to just say no?   7/7/2008

Despite what Nancy Reagan may have started with that expression, I don't mean drugs. I'm talking about oral sex. To be frank, I've never really been one for the cunnilingus or the blow jobs, to be honest. I've always found it be at best, impersonal and at worst, dangerous. Stay with me on this one.

I agree that oral is a valid point of foreplay (something I have often enjoyed over ...


5 Comments, 76 Views, 10 Votes ,2.99 Score
lickUallovertwo 62 M
4  Articles
just say it   7/5/2008

after chatting with someone and you find that your really not interested. Just say "no thanks" don't just ignore the person, that is really cruel.


7 Comments, 48 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
lickUallovertwo 62 M
4  Articles
why is it so hard   7/5/2008

I have found that many people will just ignore you instead of just saying I am not interested. Why? I wouldn't do that to anyone, so, lets just have some common manners.


1 Comments, 16 Views, 2 Votes ,1.73 Score
Buengusto61 62 M
1  Article
It sucks when it happens to you   7/5/2008

Married? No thanks. No offense, but if you're not being satisfied by your man, then leave him, but don't go looking for some side fun. My first wife cheated on me, and knowing what it feels like, no matter how hot she is, if she's married, I'm the one that has to sleep with my conscience at night. I know there are people who disagree with me, though.

Your thoughts?


1 Comments, 61 Views, 8 Votes ,4.64 Score
chrisgoesdown 40 M
1  Article
is it too much to expect an actual rejection when getting rejected?   6/25/2008

Is it just me or do people who reject you via ignoring you just piss you off.. at least tell me to go fuck off.. I recently met up with a woman I met on here.. drove about an hour to meet up with her.. brought a friend for her roomate.. shared photos and talked on the phone for days.. could tell within the first five minutes she didnt want me there.. she eventually went to bed about an hour into ...


2 Comments, 85 Views, 3 Votes ,5.39 Score
Grooverat 47 M
3  Articles
Lets be adults   5/28/2008

Most people ( men especially ) are too cowardly on this front and will bumble around making until the other person gets upset and annoyed.Be honest and upfront, we are all adults on here and should be able to take the rejection by now ;O


0 Comments, 52 Views, 5 Votes ,2.82 Score
bigguns727 57 C
1  Article
"No thanks"   5/26/2008

5/25/09 Most people appreciate when you're being upfront with them. If it's "Sorry, I'm not interested." "No thanks." It's all the same, people on this site, and in general have been around enough, that they should be able totake no as no, and keep on going.


4 Comments, 72 Views, 1 Votes ,5.00 Score
1HotSexyGuy2003 46 M
6  Articles
"I didn't want to hurt him"   5/22/2008

I don't understand why women blow off men because they "don't want to hurt them". I've seen this happen many times with friends (male and female), and to myself as well. A guy will ask a girl out, she's not interested but she doesn't want to reject him so she says yes, even gives out her phone #, with no intention of ever going out on a date with the guy. If you're not interested, just say so! ...


2 Comments, 58 Views, 11 Votes ,4.66 Score
rm_euroticEng 38 G
10  Articles
Working in a bar   5/1/2008

Working in a bar is definately a great thing, i believe everybody would agree. Free drinks, great girls around you and of course the sex. Yet, it is not always a sexy girl that is trying to get you. Then what do one do? Just gets drunk enough? Or runs away? Saying no can be a challenge...it is not really pleasant, you know. We all have been there- been said "No thanks" in one way or another. More ...


3 Comments, 96 Views, 12 Votes ,2.80 Score
rm_usurious69 43 C
1  Article
Do men find it hard to say "no"?   5/1/2008

When my man is propositioned he says that he feels like he's being really rude by saying "No" to girls. He even thinks that he's being rude by saying "No thanks" to strippers when we're in a lap dancing club; you get some right wrongens stripping these days and it seems they know that men find it hard to say 'no' too; why else would they push themselves so hard onto punters?

I always see ...


6 Comments, 90 Views, 9 Votes ,3.64 Score
rm_antioxidantz 48 M
5  Articles
No means no   4/21/2008

Well you just have to speak up ur mind. No means no. That simple. The more you are indecisive about it the more you will regret it.


8 Comments, 338 Views, 12 Votes ,3.68 Score
ToToDeep 68 M
3  Articles
Lets just face the fact   4/13/2008

Being all "adults" here at this site, it seems to me that we could use a Little common courtesy. Its ok to let someone know if your not interested, "thanks, but no thanks". I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Its not hard to understand, its our que to move on. And move on we should. Rejection is a part of being on this site. Lets just face that fact and go on and still have fun.


7 Comments, 120 Views, 15 Votes ,3.74 Score
Telling Someone You Meet Sorry You Misrepresented   4/10/2008

I met someone through AdultFriendFinder about 4 months ago and she was nothing what she described. I had already booked the hotel room for us to spend the night but when she arrived I just wanted to run. I told her I needed to run out and get some drinks but I never came back. She still called and wanted to meet again. How do you tell someone sorry you are nothing close to what I was looking for and still ...


8 Comments, 390 Views, 19 Votes ,4.71 Score
newstart20002007 48 M
1  Article
How do you do it   4/4/2008

Met a lady online-seemed great-got to know her very well via email, shared pics (she loooks good)started talking on phone, etc but her voice absolutely kills me-its awful...how do artfully back away and not hurt her feelings to much?


4 Comments, 68 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
777rowan777 61 F
4  Articles
Why are some people so mean?   3/31/2008

I don't understand why some find it necessary to write so cruelly when one says a polite "No thank you."

After responding rather than ignoring their communications, and doing so in a polite and tactful way, I have encountered such meaness in spirit that it makes me shake my head in disbelief.

Why?


14 Comments, 209 Views, 14 Votes ,5.38 Score
rbhwt 59 M
3  Articles
fisting   3/27/2008

do many women like fisting


3 Comments, 141 Views, 7 Votes ,1.26 Score
rm_CindyBunnyx 26 F
2  Articles
Unsure   2/25/2008

I have a male friend and hes is constantly flirting or making comments that are suggestful. I usually laugh it off or joke back with him but after knowing him for two months im starting to think he might be serious. Any advice? Or maybe I should ask him outright if he actually has feelings for me?


3 Comments, 140 Views, 5 Votes ,2.16 Score
rm_BX1000 51 M
7  Articles
Letting her down easy.   2/18/2008

I'm curious to know when your not interested in a someone, what's the best way to say it, so you don't hurt her feelings?


4 Comments, 42 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
RockhardCock344 25 M
3  Articles
no thanks?   2/15/2008

Fuck that....I say hell yeeeaaazzzzzz


1 Comments, 64 Views, 2 Votes ,0.34 Score
stickyfacials2 50 M
3  Articles
Know before you go   2/11/2008

Before you go and meet someone, you should really establish that chemistry before you go play with them. People will say anything to get laid. What would you like to hear?


3 Comments, 93 Views, 8 Votes ,5.10 Score
rm_brookbeach 34 M
3  Articles
NO   2/3/2008

How do you tell someone that your not interested with out hurting their feelings?


4 Comments, 88 Views, 8 Votes ,3.94 Score
a perfect no thanx   1/31/2008

I am not sure what the perfect rejection is, however i do believe one that comes with a short explanation of why the person who believed you had enough in common to be good 'adult-friends' is not your type will recieve less Why nots or agressive responses then ignoring or a auto reply does. just my thoughts


0 Comments, 58 Views, 7 Votes ,5.08 Score
lovetoplay37129 47 M
2  Articles
no thanks   12/27/2007

its hard to do , but better for everyone to be polite and say no thanks rather than nothing at all or being rude


7 Comments, 166 Views, 15 Votes ,5.27 Score